Q for the guys - powerful women

[nightcrawler]

To answer the poster, i personally is attracted to strong women. That is oddly my challenge.

The attraction comes from my belief that when the day comes and the big L-bomb drops, i want a partner or team mate in this game called life. So i guess i want a equal or somebody who inspires me by being very good at something. I also have a strong personality so i tend to respect and be attracted to women who can define their own "space" in the relationship. I basicly dont want them to go, "yes, i agree with your opinion, your so smart ~swoon~" I rather have them go, "no, i disagree because of A and B and.. when you think of C... then its obviously clear what the right answer is."

I find women who challenge and inspire me never get boring. at the same time, since i tend to work like crazy and they do too. But i guess thats where i need work. i need to find balance.

Also, i think guys talk about service girls the most because if i run out for a day taking care of stuff, who are the girls who generally are attractive i usually see in a day? Waitress, bartenders, retail reps, and... well.. service people. Because if they are holding a power position they'll be like me for the last 10 years, looking at my phone checking my emails, while rushing to point B, while planning on what the agenda for next week is.

[niceguy23]

I think if a man is intimidated by a strong independent woman who has brains and a career (ie. has her shit together regardless of you being in her life or not), it is a personal insecurity. This definitely exists as us men love to feel in control of everything. If the girl doesn't need you, it can be perceived as a threat I would guess.

Isn't the whole point of becoming a better person not so we can pick up the hottest waitress in Hooters, but so we can hold our own with the best, most quality people out there? I am dating a girl now who has a masters and administrates some kind of special education program in a school. Totally has her shit together, totally awesome girl, very smart, more accomplished than I am by a good deal.

I love it. While most of the women I am attracted to end up being one of a few things (hairdressers, waitresses and nurses), it is definitely an amazing change of pace to be with a smart, attractive, independent woman for the time being.

[BrianHez]

I personally am attracted to powerful women, the tomboys etc. I always have been since grade school. If she can hold her own against me in something, let's say in arm wrestling or a sport whatever it is... than I am that much more inclined to attempt to prove my masculine energy against her. If she is challenging my masculinity and she might triumph over me (because we can't lose to girls right ) then for me it ignites and fuels my masculinity - that sexual polarity - because of this becomes stronger for me. And if I really dig the girl, it becomes even more crucial that I "triumph" over her. If she wasn't as powerful it wouldn't be as exciting for me. And if she did beat me... that would be a huge turn on... it would make the sex that much more hotter. I still want her to retain those feminine qualities with regards to her body etc. I am not talking about going up against those man-ish women. Just a girl who has a confidence, strong character and isn't afraid to push you up against the wall (my personal turn on ).

As far as intelligence goes... for me I like my girls with brains on them too. I am a fairly intellectual guy, I like to have deep conversations.

Positions of power and the like... I mean... I would be turned on by it only if the girl embodied what those positions represent. Yea, just because she is in X position doesn't mean she is powerful. It's more of an internal strength and awareness. That power to challenge you... sends a signal to me that communicates they are really alive and have that vitality within them that gets me wanting to tangle with them. These 'powerful women' (at least defined this way on an inner/ core level) are the girls of my dreams.

Brian